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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have different thresholds for what they can tolerate. 
I’m furious on OP’s behalf and even at her a bit for being unwilling to hold her punk of a DH accountable but she’s willing and able to live with this, so that’s that.

OP, to answer your original question, since you’re willing to accept all the other stuff - no, writing a letter to his friends won’t repair things, in any way. Especially since he’s u willing to talk with them directly and stand up for you and your marriage. So don’t have any high expectations in that regard.

All you can do is let go of what they think. If you’re unwilling to hold your DH accountable for the damage he’s done and continues to then you have to accept things as they are. Period.

Though you mentioned he’d be willing to go to counseling with you, so take him up on that. And do get counseling for yourself (but don’t keep that a secret from him - he should know that you’re taking care of yourself and respecting yourself — let him worry about losing you instead of feeling like he has the luxury of shi**ing on you with no risk or consequences).[/quote]

Do not tell him about the counseling unless the counselor thinks it's a good idea.  You don't want this guy to feel threatened.  If he turned on Op so massively when she was doing nothing wrong, imagine what he might do if he found out that Op was spilling the beans about him in therapy.

The guy has issues.  Op's priority needs to be the safety of herself and her children.[/quote]

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