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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Quit and take a lower paying job with less hours that gets you home at 5.  Get rid of the phones, Disney, tutors, eating out.  Move to a smaller place if you have to.   Start being there for 50% of their time doing PARENTING.  Supervise room cleaning, kids doing own laundry and chores, homework and cooking.  You signed up for that job when you had kids.  You need to grit your teeth and do it. Be the bad guy.  Don't worry about dh's influence, [b]your kids will respond to whoever shows up everyday AND provides structure/discipline[/b]. You only have 5 more years to push through and then you can go be a CEO or whatever you want.  But make those 5 years count and do right by those kids. [/quote]

No, they won’t. If they kids can pick and choose between parental styles, they’ll pick the easier one every time. If her DH undermines what she does (let’s catch up on GoT together and get takeout instead of mom’s cooking) the kids will see right through it and know they can play parents off against each other. I’m the pp whose XDH smoked pot with my DS and told DS to ignore my requests to study when DS has Cs and Ds. Yes, kids like structure in general, but not necessarily in the form of being made to study instead of going out of tonight.

Not only is it horrible and isolating to be the only heavy in the house, it’s futile if DH is sending a completely different message.[/quote]

Should add, this couple needs to get on the same page, through counseling if necessary. Her changing jobs could help, but it won’t help much if he continues to undermine her.[/quote]

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