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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually agree with the premise of what the "Parent of a A teamer" is saying and disgree with poster who thinks these kids are "missing out."  The type of kid who is at the very top of their sport in middle school and high school, and ailming for DI, is a very specific kind of kid.  This is what they want.  Not doing this is what would cause them to feel they were missing out.

I have a kid who has her sights dead set on playing DI lacrosse. She started out at a young age playing scoopers and rec and loved it and was really talented.  She has kept moving steadily along.  The few bumps here and there seem to just make her more driven and focused.  She plays on the top team for her age, in the top program.  She grinds renlentlessly, as another poster called it, and she loves it.  She drives it all, not us, her parents, or her coaches.  She lives for every lacrosse practice, game, camp and clinic she can get to. She is on the bounce back most days even if just "for fun" and she runs and works out and watches what she eats (she eats a lot but very healthy).  Its not just for tryouts, like other kids do, it is year round.  All the time.  You may find it myopic but its what she wants.  It makes her happy

She does still participate in other sports and activities but more casually.  She works hard in school too and gets good grades.  As far as a social life, for her sports are social.  For her that seems to mostly be enough, at least for now.  I urge her to do more socially, to hang with friends.  She isn't interested.  She does takes her down time seriously though and loves to completely veg out when everything else is done

I know other parents who think their kid should be on the best team but arent.  I've been asked many times "how do I get my kid on X team?"  When I tell them what DD does to be at that level, their eyes get wide.  They usually dont want to invest a fraction of the time and energy we give to her, and yes, a kid that driven needs parents who are willing to support them with time and energy, and not a little money.

Talents is one thing, and you have to have it, but as kids age, in order to stay at the top, talent has to be matched with hard work and the person has to want it for herself/himself.   To tell this kind of a kid he or she is "missing out" means you just dont respect who the kid is.[/quote]

This is 100% accurate.  Describes a lot of the kids in many different sports.  [/quote]

Lots of respect for these kinds of kids. But if you could see inside their sub-conscious, for about 85% of them, their drive is really to please their mom and/or dad. I know several of these kids--one close family member--and as adults, they can admit to themselves for whom they were really doing it. As I said, I do respect that commitment and hard work--it's unbelievable (and with 2 full-time working parents, we would never be able to support that), but what is the end game, really? As a former D1 player, I can tell you, the only only thing I have as a result of that is the ability to stand on the sidelines and tell everybody, oh yeah, I played at so-and-so. Big picture: nobody cares.[/quote]

For some people just playing is the end in itself.  There's no bigger picture.  It's just fun to play a game well even if nobody cares.[/quote]

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