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[quote=Anonymous]So sorry, OP. Very difficult position you are in. I would follow PPs advice and explain to the children how their lives will and won't change. Tell them only what they need to know, and reassure them that both of you love them very much.

They may meet the OW at some point, but they do not need to know any details of how she split up your marriage. It would be unfair for you to burden your children with that information. It would poison their relationship with their father, and that would be extremely unhealthy. When they are old enough, even adults if need be, they can be told the truth. But now, do your best to reassure them. Make sure both of you are there!! Plan and agree on what you will say to them in advance.

As far as telling the husband of the OW, I think he has a right to know, since you suspect the affair is continuing. It's harsh and kind at the same time. I would tell him in an email or a brief phone call, and have no further contact with him whatsoever. He can ask his wife for the details.

Good luck and hold yourself together for the sake of your children. They will get through this if you and your STBX work together and keep your differences and disputes away from the kids. [/quote]

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