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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guy perspective here: Mother runs off to another state and takes his child with her. He has no control over this, but he does the right thing and pays child support. Mother establishes new life and child is in stable situation. He doesn't want to interfere with that.

I can see the logic in that, especially from a guy who hasn't raised a child yet. Once you do (as most of us here have), it seems unfathomable, but I totally could understand that logic before I had children. It's difficult for men to bond with a baby in the first year anyway (I know from experience), so he may not have had much opportunity to develop a bond with the baby before his girlfriend moved her away.[/quote]

Yes, I agree. (And I'm a woman)[/quote]

I agree, too.

I also agree with the poster who said its unreal how sanctimonious some of you are when every other post on here is about a guy who doesn't step up and do his half of the parenting work. Look in the mirror, people.[/quote]

I think the second part of this post is interesting, and true.  There are TONS of families on DCUM where the father basically does nothing parenting-wise but provide money.  I'll bet a bunch of the women chewing this guy out are posting "My DH doesn't do his to-do list!" or "DH can't be alone with the baby!" an hour later.  [/quote]

Are you really saying it's OK to be an uninvolved dad? You're equating not being with baby with not seeing your DD for 11 years, which seems like a ridiculous comparison for starters. And then you're blaming the wives for being "sanctimonious" about both these things. [/quote]

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