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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guy here:  When I married my wife I went in with the mindset that I was committed to meeting her needs over the long term.  We've talked openly about our needs and some of hers include:
- Me talking to her every day without being distracted 
- Being fiscally responsible and earning a good living
- Helping around the house: I pick up, do dishes, clean the kitchen, make the bed, put away laundry, do the grocery shopping, etc
- Being a good parent: I do homework every night, participate in cubscouts, do stuff with the kid every day.

I'm 45 and stay very fit (avid cyclist, gym guy) when I started having ED issuses I went and saw my doc and went through a series of embarassing conversations plus tests.

I'm naturally disinterested in doing most of the items above and I wouldn't do them if it wasn't something she needed.  If she were to get to a point where she was unwilling to meet my needs just because some article on Jezebel resonated with her that wouldn't work for me.  That's not a mature or realistic or sustainable view of a relationship.  
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Stop doing the traditionally female household chores.  That invariably kills a woman's desire for her husband.   Trading household chores for sex never works.  Do the manly stuff like change the oil on your car or something.

Stop doing your childrens' homework.  They should do their own homework.  Only women/moms think they are helping kids learn by "helping them with their homework."  You are emulating what your wife wants you to do, not what is best for the child.  If your child can't do the homework on his or her own, have a meeting with the teacher and find out why.  The kid needs to learn how to gain self reliance and be responsible for their own work.  The other stuff you mention I assume you would want to do regardless of what your wife did or didn't want.

Stop doing what you are disinterested in, or indeed, you will end up in a Jezebel inspired marital trainwreck, sooner or later.[/quote]

I'm more than happy with my sex life.

Go try to sort out your own life.  Mine is working just fine.[/quote]

Says the false bravado of the guy who wears an apron and has ED problems.

And sees no connection between the two.[/quote]

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