Reply to Parent subsidizing my sib big time but not me. Would you be ticked?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Parent subsidizing my sib big time but not me. Would you be ticked?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Interesting to see the different perspectives.  A couple clarifications:

My sister was never an addict or anything close.  I think it would be fair to describe her as a pothead though.  It was a lifestyle thing, not a dependency thing.  She was a bit of a slacker too I would say.  But not either of those things anymore.

I do not have a problem cobbling together 50k.  Getting $$ from mom isn't make or break.  I just don't think gifts this big should go to one sib and not the other.  [b]It is a matter of principle.[/b]

I am not resentful of my sis at all.  I am happy for her to be buying a house and really settling down.  She's a good person, and I am happy for her.  She is also responsible with money, so I don't think she'll be back needing more handouts.  This is a one-time thing.  Again, my issue is that mom is investing a big piece of her resources in one child but not the other in order to even out our lifestyles I guess.  I feel like kids should get the same help and be left to their own devices.  Exceptions would be for drastic situations like overwhelming medical bills.  [/quote]

This is where I disagree.  Equal =/= exactly the same.  Your sister needs the help now, to settle down and create a more stable life.  You don't.  Giving to children according to need is a perfectly fine principle, too.

You assume it's meant "to even out of lifestyles," but I suspect it's more that one of you is established in life and one of you is not, and your mom is trying to help get your sister set firmly on the right path.  It appears that your parents paid for your college, and you were then able to obtain further education and you now earn a shit-ton of money.  Your sister was not, but has gotten her shit together and is ready to be a responsible adult.

You are not entitled to your mother's money.  She is entitled to give it to her children as she sees fit.  She is entitled to decide that the child who has a household income in the top two percent does not need the money.  For all you know, she intends to save the money to assist your kids with college or something.  But it's her money and you are not entitled to it.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics