Reply to In laws lifestyle 'hobby' vis a vis our children

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "In laws lifestyle 'hobby' vis a vis our children "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I skipped to the end here --
I did fox hunting from young ES age to an old age in that same casual way. Some clubs are casual. Some are not and I have ridden with those also. And the horses always need to be exercised over the course. As you know, you cant just take them out once a year. So I had many more invitations than I could possibly fulfill to ride anytime. And so I rode a lot. as for the gear, I am a standard small size so that was never a problem.
But to do it that way, your head has to be in the right place, and you cannot let the snobs get you down. You cannot let them move you onto their snob turf, so to speak.If you are there to enjoy, then enjoy.
But horse people are famous for their meanness and snobbiness (and proud of it!). So often, the children are not as interested as the parents, or the first person who loves to ride in the family. I have known many ardent horse lovers whose children think -- not for me!! and that is hurtful.
But having ridden in many hunts and  tended to many injuries while out there, there is no way in this world that I would have my children do it with people I did not trust, which an attitude that I did not agree with, or just for status sake. You have to be a good and confident rider with plenty of experience to do this well.[/quote]

Wow, Op here, thank you so much. You just hit so many points.... While I might be able to do this and keep true to my roots amongst some of this crowd, I feel torn exposing my children to some of these children, who are wickedly mean as well, and some of whom have already sustained injuries and love to brag about them or act a casually about it. The social stuff skews it too much for me to feel like it is a good fit for my children.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics