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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP checking back in.

No, I have not had an affair.  I'm assuming she has not either, but the more I read DCUM, the more I realize this is a possibility.

Yes, I am in IC and we will start MC soon (she has resisted until recently) but our issues aren't particularly unique to a couple married 10 yrs who both work and with a young child.

Again, I didn't ask for advice or for an analysis of my situation.  Some of those post have been helpful, some less so.

The point of the thread was to hear from other spouses who, for one reason or another, no longer find themselves sexually attracted to their spouses.  There have been several very good posts to that effect.

Of course there have also been many negative attacks but I just chalk that up to what happens on virtually any post on a public internet forum, especially DCUM, and ignore them.

[b]I do find it interesting that, while I requested input from both men and women, it has been exclusively women who have described how they have lost sexual attraction for their spouses.  I'm curious why there have been no men describing a similar situation.  The men who have posted on their own situation have all described how their wives have lost interest in them and not the other way around.

I wonder if this is because this phenomenon really is that lopsided towards women or if men are just more reluctant to admit it? [/b] [/quote]

[i]There are plenty of men who aren't that attracted to their wives, or at least their attraction has faded.  But men don't have to be attracted to a woman to want to sleep with her (most men, obviously there are exceptions).  An average woman can be in a bar and most men will fuck her if given the chance.  Men aren't picky when it comes to sex.  So yes, it's mostly a female phenomenon that they don't find their partners attractive enough for sex, although its usually just as much the emotional connection as the physical.[/i][/quote]

[b]PP, are you male or female?[/b] [/quote]

Male.  Is what I wrote surprising?  Men aren't known for being picky about who they want to get off with.  YMMV, but in general we don't find women lining up to go to massage parlors to have some random person rub their genitals to orgasm.

My wife is attractive, and I am attracted to her in the same sense as those women who say they find their husbands attractive in the generic sense but not in the sexually hungry sense.  But I don't need someone to turn me on.  I am turned on because I have a spontaneous sex drive.  DW is my only approved sexual outlet and I am more than thrilled to have sex with her.[/quote]

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