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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Can I revamp this topic?!![/b]

If your husband is never home and is ALWAYS working on multiple matters at a time, how do you keep your relationship strong?  My husband is not happy and is really blaming me for a lot of his unhappiness. He says I don't show him any love or affection, but he doesn't get home until I'm already asleep. Then in the morning, I'm up with the toddlers. We don't see each other at all.  He is sending me emails that I used to send him 6 years ago when he was an associate working late. He says I never take his calls, but it is usually at bedtime. He doesn't feel appreciate.

Help.  This sucks.  I cry a lot at night, my dream of a two parent household with the kids and the dog that all my family thinks is picture perfect is very lonely.[/quote]

I find it to be a very interesting topic.

My husband is a professor in a discipline that does not require a lab for research, so apart from teaching, he can work from home whenever he wants.
Sometimes I feel sorry for myself because I'll have to work when we have kids (we are TTC now), which makes me feel ridiculous now reading this because we are super close and have lots of time to be together. He'll also be able to help get kids ready for daycare and bring them to and from daycare no problem. When I read stories like yours I really feel for you. That sounds very difficult and you sound very lonely. Hugs.

Have you tried emailing him in the evenings after the kids have gone to bed in a manner similar to the way you did when he was an associate working late? It sounds like those emails really helped him feel close to you. I know it's not easy to feel close when you barely see each other, but I do think small things like this can make a big difference.

For 2 years my relationship with DH was long distance, and we spoke for about 30 minutes per day on the phone. Of course we did not have kids, so it was possible to find 30 minutes? Is there any way you could take your husband's calls in the evening? Start small and go from there...

Good luck OP. Money is also a great thing. If you hang on through the difficult period with little kids, you may have more opportunities to be close later on.[/quote]

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