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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The other problem with having so many partners now is that now your expectations are higher in marriage and the second the sex life starts to have problems, you star to wax nostalgic about past sex partners and your mind starts to wander.

Most of our grandparents had sex with one person in their entire life.  They didn't have anything else to compare their current sex life well.  Yes, it's better today to have more choice when picking a partner, but there are downsides to that too.  And knowing your current partner has slept with X number of people can raise some insecurities as well.  And put pressure on you to live up to the standards of those other people your partner was with.  It's just all messed up.[/quote]

That's not been my experience. Peior to DH I had at least a dozen partners. Some casual encounters some in a relationship. I've been married 17yrs and have no illusions as to my past partners and pine over no one. My DH is a catch and is physically possibly more attractive at 45 than whrn I met him at 25.

He married a.sexual woman. I've always enjoyed sex. I've never thought sex was dirty or shameful. By marrying a woman who views sex like I do, he enjoys a sex life much more frequent and varied than most of his friends.  A lot of women I k or simply don't like having sex with their husbands. They have major hang upd, major body insecurities, and never really gave themselves permission to treat sex like a pleasure rather than a currency.[/quote]
+1 This mirrors my experience. I enjoy sex, don't use it as a bargaining tool, and initiate often. I don't shame him for having a sex drive. I'm not tempted to cheat  because I know what's out there and I chose someone compatible with me on all levels. [/quote]

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