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Hmm well, i am the one that originally said the ring is a gift. I sadi nothing abotu wedding etc. I actually paid for most of the wedding because it mattered to me and he would have been happy with JOP. I pay the cost to the boss. I want a wedding? I pay for anything extra above and beyong what he can afford. What have I done for him? he is able to live in a much nicer house than if he just worked on his own to buy a house. He gets to have a family that he wouldnt have without me. If his car breaks down, I am Johhny on the spot. I can either pick hiom, help shoulder the car repair bill if needed ( he is a grown man and can take care of it on his own for routine things but emergencies? yeah sure we're both all in).  I don;t need to deman total equality in marriage.  I get it because he knows I pull my weight. [/quote]

Glad you see the wedding as a shared cost. But I still do not see your "reciprocity" for him buying you an expensive ring.
All the things you "do for him" that is all great stuff, good for you, but doesn't he do all that same stuff for you (if not, why not)?
Also I'm glad you have an equal marriage without any demands. You are missing my point:

Where was your initial "gift" to him that would compare to an expensive ring?
And if you didn't purchase him a Harley-Davidson or something equally expensive, then I would say your marriage did not start off "equal" so why are you OK with that?[/quote]

A gift is just that, a gift. People can spend what they want and can afford for a gift. When I buy Christmas or birthday gifts for friends and family, I don't expect to get back gifts that cost the same amount. It is not about money spent, but about what has meaning.

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