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[quote=Anonymous]Of course it's about lying. The PPs who are telling OP to "get over it" obviously cheated on their SOs at one time or another and are justifying it because it happened before they were married or living in the same house.

I feel your pain, OP. If you had an agreement with him that you would not see anyone else, even before you were engaged, then your DH (who was your boyfriend at the time) has cheated on you, and he continued to cheat even after you were engaged, which to my understanding usually means that you are NOT seeing anyone else! If your DH thinks he's been faithful because he's not slept with another woman (yet) since you've been married, he has an odd idea of what marriage and commitment means. He's going to cheat again, OP, I would bet money on that. He may be happy with you now, and he may be remorseful that he was caught, but I doubt he thought he did anything wrong, because he doesn't seem commitment the way you do.

Glad you've got some space this weekend and next week, OP. Just try to care for yourself and recognize you can't control him. Don't make any decisions right now, just keep moving forward. You need to understand your own contribution to this situation before you are able to fix your marriage or move on. You may have rationalized or overlooked red flags because you were in love with him -- examine your own behavior very closely. Best of luck to you. Hugs. [/quote]

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