Reply to In shock - he cheated

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "In shock - he cheated"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
OP, I have no idea if this is going to be helpful or crass or not.  But just a thought - I think you and the therapist may be over thinking things.  [b]He cheated because having sex with people feels good, you weren't around, and he thought he was going to get away with it (and did until a vengeful other woman decided to ruin your life). [/b]Men do stupid things with their penis (women aren't perfect either).  It's not like you were long time married and seemingly happy and have something deep to deconstruct.  All in all, men are simple when it comes to sex.  You weren't available, she was, he had sex with her.  Selfish of him?  Of course.  A pathology?  No.

You will never have a guarantee that you won't be cheated on again - by him or any man you are with.  If he seems remorseful, ditch the therapy and get on with life.[/quote]

PP here.  I actually agree with the therapist.  The OP is being asked to extend trust and have faith when both have been broken with no explaination. Saying fiance wanted sex and didn't think he would get caught as a viable excuse would not work for me.  What about if OP stays with him and is pregnant. He won't be getting sex from her for several months and it may take a while to settle in post baby, can she expect if he isn't getting it at home he turns elsewhere?  She travels for work.  Should she assume he may do this again under not getting caught because she won't be around.  I 100% understand the need for OP to have her husband understand why he did it and if the answer is easy sex/not getting caught to me I wouldn't want to stay.  I honestly think it is more than that but he needs to do the hard work to figure out why and then the relationship can really rebuild.
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics