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[quote=Anonymous]There are two aspects to this topic: first what the OP raised in terms of how her husband makes snide comments about her weight. The second is the misinformation by those who seek to rationalize their obesity and being fat.

The thrust of what these people are saying is that people who are overweight are helpless and almost destined to that condition. This is total nonsense unless you have a medical condition which few people do that prevents weight loss. But for the vast majority of people it is plain and simple overeating and you can argue this till kingdom come but it does not change that reality. People don't need to gorge themselves on thousands of calories of food to feel satiated or to function effectively. Neither does one need to starve. The problem is that people equate not eating until their buttons pop as being some sort of deprivation.

Keeping my weight under control is not easy for me: I have to watch what I eat, limit what I eat and exercise but I don't deprive myself of a single type of food. I don't follow any fad diets because I cannot sustain them. I just eat less - and, guess what, I am not hungry at the end of it. But it took me a while to reach this point. I used to consume most of a medium pizza laden with cheese and meat and at the end of it felt full. I just finished my lunch and all I had was a single slice of a medium pizza ....... and I am not hungry. I am not presenting myself as any kind of a model other than to say it can be done. I have lost the best part of 60 pounds from my peak. I am not thin but I am not fat either by any stretch. I don't strive to lose more weight - if it happens that is fine.

We hear this constant strain about being content with your body even if you are fat. Seriously, few people really are happy with it even if they claim they are. It does not mean one needs to be a size 4 to achieve nirvana but being a size 14 is not it either. You can do something about it for your own self-esteem, your health, your outlook on life, your social acceptance, etc. Or you can pretend that it does not matter and you are fine being obese. Most people are not fine with it and the very protestations on this thread by those who offer rationalizations about being fat are evidence of it.

Where I do agree with one of the PPs' is that part of the problem is that once you become fat and then lose the weight, it becomes a real struggle not to rebound to where you were or even greater. But it can be done and despite all the naysayers, there are too many success stories that confirm this.

This is not a new phenomenon. It has basically occurred over several decades and is affecting not only the US - where it is obviously a serious problem - but also other countries including developing nations.

[url]http://www.livescience.com/35448-global-obesity-nearly-doubles-in-30-years-study-finds.html[/url][/quote]

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