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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My own 2 cents.  I would probably choose the option of finding a fun special outing for my child on the day of the party, but if I chose to contact the mother of the birthday child, I would probably say[b] "I understand that Larla's birthday party is coming up.  I thought you might like to know that Larla is verbally inviting some children in class, like my son, who have not been sent invitations to the party.  You might want to encourage her not to talk about the party in class since not everyone was invited."[/b]

This tells her that you aren't putting her in the awkward spot of trying to get her to invite your son on the spot unless she really wants to, but serves as a notice to her that this is happening.  Then she can decide whether she can include your son somehow.  It also gives her a response if your son wasn't invited.  "Oh, I'm so sorry.  I'll definitely talk to Larla about that.  Thank you."[/quote]

Just goes to show why email can be such a tough medium. In general, I think it's ok to contact the mom in this situation - but the suggestion above is by far the worst way of handling it that's been suggested so far.  It conveys quite a bit of anger and annoyance and if I received that note I'd not feel inclined to be friendly toward this family[/quote]

Agree.  I've opined in favor of checking in with the Mom, but don't adopt the tone of "here's a suggestion on how to parent your kid."  No parent likes to hear that.  Just advise them of the situation, get clarity on whether your child is actually invited, and leave it to the other parent to handle their own family dynamics.[/quote]

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