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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I think the parents asking for help with chores was an honest plea for help and not a rude demand. I think most of us would never ask but would have loved it. [/quote]

No, it's rude, presumptuous and unbelievably lazy. I would never have welcomed my friends into my home with the expectation of having them scrub my toilets or do my laundry. Ever. Under any circumstances. And I'd feel horrified and humiliated if they took it upon themselves to do these things on my behalf. Being a parent is learning to multitask. And I genuinely don't understand why new parents are incapable of putting dirty clothes in a washing machine - it's not like they're doing any real work in the process.

I had 2 kids, and no help for either of them. I think I got one meal each time. It's not rocket science, folks, have some freezer meals or order take-out or get prepared foods from a grocery store. Having a new baby was hard both times, but honestly it was the baby part - not the laundry or the cooking.

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I wouldn't ask but I will always remember the friends that showed up and just did something, anything for me.  My house was in pretty good shape at one point, and my friend wouldn't leave without doing something.  She emptied the dishwasher.  I always go in and take care of dishes or whatever I can do when visiting a  new mom.[/quote]

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