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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I haven't read every page, but just wanted to say that I sympathize and it seems like you are being reasonable and realistic.  I also spent 10 years at a biglaw firm doing litigation, and then moved to something else after our first was born.  It was not an easy transition, and I sympathize with your husband's predicament.

For what it's worth: I ended up at a trade association making about half of what I used to make.  I am home by 5:30 every day and work from home on Fridays.  When I interviewed, I was very up front about the schedule I wanted, and definitely had to pass on a couple of positions (at law firms) when it seemed like things wouldn't be a good fit.  I kind of had to move into a position where I'm not actually litigating a big load of cases on a day to day basis (sorry I can't really be more specific).  But I do miss working on bigger, more high profile, stimulating things.  It's a tradeoff.  Agree wiht a PP, though- the worst case scenario is moving somewhere where he works substantially the same hours for less money.  I know quite a few people who moved from biglaw to govt or a smaller firm and ended up in that situation.

Also, when I worked in biglaw, a few male partners with young kids would try to structure their work so they left at 6:00 or so 3-4 days a week, and then stayed til 1-2 in the morning the remaining 1-2 days.  It's not ideal, but maybe if your DH could try something like that it would provide a bit of short term relief?

Good luck to you.  [/quote]

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