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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it's not about your attractions anymore, it is about kids. And there are different parenting philosophies but most people agree that it is best for kids to be with mom in their early years IF mom is happy to stay at home. I think your wife is, however tired she may seem. 
So, she does crafts with kids instead of cooking YOU dinner? The horror! Again, it's not about you. 
Be an adult, just cook the darn dinner or bring takeout, and yes, do that deep cleaning on a weekend! Just trust me, being with kids all day is an important and hard JOB. Lots of people choose to go to work, nothing wrong with that, but please please give your wife an opportunity to do her job if this is what she chooses. You don't have to understand, just appreciate. 
You don't realize how much she takes off your shoulders. Do you want to stay home with sick kids? do you want to do pickups, dropoffs, rain or shine? do you want to take them to doctors appointments? doesn't seem like it from your post. So please, just leave her alone. [/quote]

Spoken by someone who clearly has never worked full time while raising kids.  You are so pro SAHP it's ridiculous.[/quote]

Not pp, but someone who has been both a WOH and SAH mom.  DH was very in favor of my returning to work until he had to leave work early to relieve the nanny and we had to bicker over who was going to take kids to doctor's appointment and who was going to stay home when kids were sick and didn't want to give up golf game on Sunday for grocery shopping.  Then he wanted me to stay home again.[/quote]

Are you bragging about having a self centered husband who does not value family?[/quote]

Oh, please. Not PP, but I SAH and I do 90+% of the house work and child care and running around. DH is able to work long hours and make $$$ because he doesn't have to worry about the daily "grind". I hate WOH. He hates the work I do. I appreciate that I don't have to commute and work a 9-5. He appreciates he doesn't have to come home to a dirty house in need of cleaning, or to run errands, or find food or do other house work.

Just because he isn't cleaning the kitchen, folding laundry and cooking dinner doesn't make him uninvolved or that he de-values our family. It's because I do all that I do that he is so involved, because his time away from work is spent doing family things instead of trying to keep our heads above water, getting the daily necessities accomplished in between him coming home and going to bed. [/quote]

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