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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it's not about your attractions anymore, it is about kids. And there are different parenting philosophies but most people agree that it is best for kids to be with mom in their early years IF mom is happy to stay at home. I think your wife is, however tired she may seem. 
So, she does crafts with kids instead of cooking YOU dinner? The horror! Again, it's not about you. 
Be an adult, just cook the darn dinner or bring takeout, and yes, do that deep cleaning on a weekend! Just trust me, being with kids all day is an important and hard JOB. Lots of people choose to go to work, nothing wrong with that, but please please give your wife an opportunity to do her job if this is what she chooses. You don't have to understand, just appreciate. 
You don't realize how much she takes off your shoulders. Do you want to stay home with sick kids? do you want to do pickups, dropoffs, rain or shine? do you want to take them to doctors appointments? doesn't seem like it from your post. So please, just leave her alone. [/quote]

Spoken by someone who clearly has never worked full time while raising kids.  You are so pro SAHP it's ridiculous.[/quote]

Not pp, but someone who has been both a WOH and SAH mom.  DH was very in favor of my returning to work until he had to leave work early to relieve the nanny and we had to bicker over who was going to take kids to doctor's appointment and who was going to stay home when kids were sick and didn't want to give up golf game on Sunday for grocery shopping.  Then he wanted me to stay home again.[/quote]

Not my problem that your DH didn't comprehend what "50/50 partnership" meant.[/quote]

Never said it was, just said you are unable to step outset your own personal circumstances and see life as a one size fits all.  Doesn't work that way.
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You must not haved cared much if you WOH or SAH.  If I was in your situation, I'd tell my DH that taking the kids to the doctor is part of parenting, and that he shouldn't hide behind his work to avoid parental drudgery. Of course, I've always really wanted a career, so I wouldn't have let my DH's unhappiness about actually participating in his family life stop me from working. I'd rather play golf than grocery shop too, but that's why God created Peapod and 24-hour grocery stores.  You don't sound like you were at all interested in a career, even if it meant doing more household and kid work.[/quote]

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