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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I'm with OP. I hope your daughter is feeling better and more secure of herself because she has her strong mom behind her.[/quote]

Nope.  Her mother's over-the-top reaction only reinforces her feeling of victimization.  She has learned that she is not strong enough to handle even the simplest things without mommy stepping in and fighting her battles for her.  She probably lost two friends.

This could have been handled with a simple conversation with the girls the next morning.  The chest pains, hysterics, 3am emails.....  Completely over the top and unnecessary.[/quote]

9:50 ...It WAS handled with a conversation!! The girls did not know about the 3 am email nor the chest pains! [/quote]

I personally would have handled it with a much shorter discussion, and without the "sit down" part.  As the girls were eating breakfast or something I would have simply said "You crossed a line last night.  Next time we do a sleepover, dial it back a little."  As a matter of fact when I had a group of teen boys here in the basement I could hear their conversations.  Over the top would be putting it mildly, with some crass comments directed at DS.  All I did was go to the top of the stairs and say "Guys?  Far enough."  I heard a few "sorry's" and we all carried on.

Done.  They get the point.

If mom was upset enough to have chest pains her DD likely picked up on her anxiety.  ALTHOUGH, as the mom of someone who's been through a lot of shit.. it can be tough to see your kid that upset and not react.[/quote]

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