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[quote=Anonymous]I haven't read the replies but want to mention something, OP.  There is a very interesting paperback book that's worth reading called Rediscover Catholicism, A Spiritual Gide to Living with Passion & Purpose by Matthew Kelly.

I bring it up because I was raised Catholic and am very much a Catholic-light-type, so I am sympathetic to your situation.  On the other hand, there is a big difference between what's going on in Rome, or even at the American Cardinal/Bishop level and what goes on at a particular parish.  For instance, my kids go to a Catholic school that is connected to a parish and it's a very healthy community; the priest is lively and engaging; the families are lovely.

Some parts of the larger institution are toxic, and those parts get a lot of media attention.  But on the local level, it can be a very positive experience.

Now the book comes in because it can help explain what Catholicism is supposed to be about and probably what your DH is connecting to.  For instance, the whole concept of hospitals is a Catholic concept.  In Jesus's time all those lepers were just out on the street to die. The Catholic concept of a hospital is *not* connected to faith--they will take anyone, not just a believer, and it's not about converting a patient, it's just about helping another human being.

Anyways, just want to mention stuff like this because there is a way to reframe this situation; one way to look at it is your DH is moving away from your values and beliefs, but that framing isn't helpful to your marriage so I'm trying to help you get a different angle on it.

Now 11am mass to cut into your day?  That's a different issue and yup, that is worth a negotiation.[/quote]

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