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I'm a FT WOHM and you make some good points, but the fact is it is just going to be more difficult for some women with big gaps in their resume to get back in the workforce (if you aren't rubbing elbows with loaded people who will gladly commit to investing in your new business over cocktails). You seem to be saying, what is best for our kids? But I disagree that it would be best for either our boys or our girls to be raised in a society where it is expected that a woman become a mom or have a career. Sorry, but that has implications that I don't think anyone wants. Grad schools and colleges and employers would be much less likely to invest in girls if the thinking is that they will probably just quit to raise kids. And you clearly have a bias. We've used both daycare and a nanny, and neither has raised our child, though they certainly have helped raise them and I'm very grateful for them.

And actually, you can protect yourself from bad circumstances by working. Economic security is pretty critical.

I do agree that the workforce needs to change for both men and women. I do not think a mom staying home while dad works 80 hour weeks and never deals with a sick kid, field trip, etc. is not ideal, and that happens a lot in this area. I think that unfortunately for many, technology instead of giving you more freedom has just meant you can work longer, and that's silly and counter-productive at some point. Honestly, we blame companies but a lot of it is individual. Some people are addicted to work and could do just as good a job in fewer hours. I see that a lot around here. But I do think overall our workforce is not that friendly for many two parent working families, and I think it would be better for everyone if it was. I know a lot of women who feel forced out of the workforce because it is 50 hours or nothing and their husbands have that too.
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+1  Exactly.  The problem with this area is that the economic security thing doesn't SEEM as critical if you are really comfortable financially, because it seems impossible/implausible that you would ever be economically insecure.  But growing up in a home where one parent faced layoffs, et cetera, I'm very uneasy about limiting my employment potential (even if it were feasible financially for me to quit work when I have a child).  [/quote]

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