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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My brother is 9 years younger than me and I think my parents were too old. At the time I was ecstatic that we were actually going to have a live living doll, and I doted on him a lot. 
From what I noticed, the never attended his pta meetings, any school sport activities, he never played sport or did any extracurricular that would have involved parent driving or taking him to such an event. I was in my teen years the mini mum who was constantly on baby sit duty. Got upset about this several times and was just told I was immature. Looking back I think it was a combination of them not being interested and being tired. I do remember going to the park with my dad and older sibling when I was about 5, but my dad never did that with my younger brother. [/quote]

Mine were 10 and 12 years younger (twins), so 3 altogether. My parents (40 at the time of twins birth) did very little with them espcially compared to the older sibs. I was the mini mom and did NOT enjoy the role. Older bros were away at college. Parents felt that they had raised 3 successfully and could now relax. Except it did not work out so well for the younger three. At 12-13 I was not the best mom, and lacked interest (as did my mom). Just a mini disaster actually. Even today as adults, my younger sibs talk about having unlimited freedom to party, and on the other hand very few organized activities or support with homework, social situations ect. I was away at college during crucial years, and my bros were gone from their age 5. Parents just laked the energy to supervise them. They also spent a tremendous amount of time saving for college and retirement.[/quote]

My siblings are 5 and 6.5 years older than I am.  My parents were mid 30's and 40 when I was born.  My parents always lamented that when my siblings were born, they were FTP and inexperienced and didn't know/do a lot of things for them.  But when I came along, they were much more with it and were able to do things for me that they didn't know they had to do for my siblings.  They were much more involved in my life because they had a better idea of what parenting involved by the time they got to me.  The three of us love each other dearly and love to needle each other.  They always say I was an accident, that our parents were done having children until they "oopsed" with me.  I always say that they were just "practice children" so that they could get things right when I came along.  Despite being older (and back then, they were definitely older parents when I came along), they were still great parents.  No, my parents were not extremely physically active with me, but then, they weren't that physically active with my siblings either...they just weren't that type of parents.  They don't play sports and they didn't engage us when outside.  If we were outdoors, they would watch us play, bu not play with us.  That's the way they were and it had nothing to do with their ages when we were born.  But they did so many wonderful things for us both then and now.  Fortunately, we are long lived on both sides and my siblings are in their 50's and I am in my 40's and my parents at 80 and 86 are still going strong.[/quote]

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