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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another point of view from someone raised by an "older parent". My dad was 42 when I was born in the 70s. My brother came along when dad was 45. He was an awesome very involved dad growing up, but definitely seemed "older". He was very old-fashioned and would sometimes embarrass me in school- not that that doesn't happen with younger parents. But- true story- dad was also a spend thrift. So, he walked into my class one time wearing throwback bell bottoms when they were totally not in style. I almost died. I was in like 5th grade at the time. Ironically, when I hit HS, bell bottoms were back in. So, I wore them during spirit week on 60s day and totally had EVERYONE begging to know where I got them and if they could borrow! Anyways, my dad has always been the "best" dad of my crew. Now that in my 30s, he's the best grandpa. But, clearly a grandpa nonetheless. Dementia has started to set in and he's really not the man who raised me any longer. He's in his late 70s now, and I'm dealing with issues related to his longterm care needs. That could happen with younger parents too. Also, late 70s is not "old old", so he could have early dementia. Anyways, in my mid 30s with two little ones and a hubby turning 40 this year, our lives are full spectrum- dealing with young kids and all that drama and the opposite scenario- elder care. So, I'm kinda stuck in the middle. I would take my dad any day just as he is- he's the most awesome man who raised me, but I wish he was a younger too. Especially on days when his memory is especially feeble. He couldn't find his glasses one day- he was wearing them. And he couldn't figure out why his phone wouldn't work- he was hold the tv remote to his year. At least we have some newfound humor![/quote]

She sounds like a terrific person. But would you really want this for your kids? Dealing with dementia in your 30s?[/quote]

My parents were in their early/mid 30's when I was born.  Both of them died at 63 (when I was early 30's and my brother late 20's).  Shit happens and nothing is guaranteed.[/quote]

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