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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I supposed to be inviting my out of state in laws to my kids birthday parties?  I've never considered that.  Why am I going to pay for 2 grandparents to come to SkyZoe from out of state.  I wouldn't even have time to chat with them I'd be busy making polite small talk with the parents who didn't drop off, and arranging cake and pizza etc and making sure no one has a broken femur on the trampoline. I'm not interested in hosting a kids birthday party AND hosting my in laws at the same time. [/quote]

We don’t focus on socializing with the in-laws during the actual party..that’s for the kids and chatting with other parents.

The in-laws stay with us for at least 3 days and we talk then. Plenty of time to catch up with them.[/quote]

I guess I wonder why on earth theyd even want to come.  They arent going to be spending time with my kids, unless they think theyre going to be able to drag them out of the trampoline and make them chat with them on the sidelines or something.  Theyre not going to be chatting with me or DH.  Theyre just going to be standing there and probably bored and over stimulated, for 2 hours.  Again- never even crossed my mind.  We usually invite them down the weekend before or the weekend after to say happy birthday and go out to dinner if they want.  [/quote]

So why do the local grandparents want to come?[/quote]

NP. My local grandparents come to help. They're helping to set up, cook, run events. I don't have to host them overnight either. [/quote]

Are the cousins going to help too? They got an invite while some other cousins didn't. These rules certainly are confusing.[/quote]

One of my cousins who was my age frequently attended my birthday parties when I was a kid.  I really don't think my cousins who were 5 years older or 5 years younger than me expected to be invited, not did I expect to attend theirs....

I think it's not always clear cut on whether to extend an invitation to out-of-town grandparents- where do you draw the line?  If not 4 hrs, then what?  My parents live 8 hrs away and they occasionally visit over my kids birthdays, and if their borthday party happens to be that weekend then they attend the party (and help, generally).  But if I were to extend a formal invite to them for every party then I guess I'd need to extend it to my ILs too, who would have to fly in, and then I couldn't host everyone at my house.  But thankfully my parents and ILs seem content to just spend time and celebrate with their grandkids outside of the kids party.[/quote]

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