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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't care. It's not like they are sleeping with your spouse, correct?[/quote]

Would you trust leaving your spouse with them?? Some women just give you the gut instinct…they aren’t part of the sisterhood. I had a roommate in a group house that banged her best friend’s BF. I walked in on it in the main room. She did this kind of stuff often. She wouldn’t guess it about her. She appeared nice and put together.  She was chubby/fat so I think it stemmed from insecurity and poor self-esteem which is true of most APs/OW I’ve known about. [/quote]

+100 I had a “friend” like this. She openly would flirt with my husband. She once grabbed his nuts in front of a patio full of people when drunk. We cut her off- went no contact. Later other friends said they always thought she had a thing for my spouse. She ended up alienating a lot of people with her web of lies…oh and a decade later her husband divorced her for…..cheating.  She had a perfectly curated life/image for about a decade—the walls caved in on her eventually. [/quote]

But...that person wasn't a friend. This is what I don't understand - you stopped being friends with this person because of her behavior, NOT because you knew she was cheating. She happened to ALSO be a cheater, but that's not why you cut her off.

It's almost like some of you think a cheater is exactly and always like the PP described, but they're not. I know some people who have cheated that shocked me and they have never done anything like that in any other area of their life. That's not everyone, of course, but I think this blanket "I would cut off of a friend if they cheated" is a really myopic view to take. [/quote]

This isn't unusual. I've been with women who go on guard around their "slutty" roommate or their BFF who flirts with everyone the woman appears to want. And yet they remain roommates/friends. [/quote]

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