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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look. Historically it was women who wrote the thank you letters. I have never met a man who would write a thank you letter, let alone take the time to figure out what everybody sent and come up with a few sentences on how he planned to use it.

And maybe that made sense when women stayed at home, and relationships were their responsibility.

But now with women working full time, it’s ridiculous to expect them to also spend hours on this unpaid labor that no man would ever do. They (or really, she, because I’m guessing the wife did this) are smart for finding a solution that requires little time yet still got the thank you note out.[/quote]

[b]Gotta love this new generation. Not too busy to plan a big expensive wedding and fill out that registry, but too busy and entitled to be bothered with sending a proper thank you. [/b][/quote]

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This is it right here. And it is the truth. The amount of time and energy it takes to plan a big event is never discussed as being too much, is it? But when it comes to anything beyond the me-me-me-centric aspect of weddings, it is "ridiculous" and "unpaid labor" to write a thank you note. And I don't care who writes the note - bride or groom - but if the happy couple is willing to receive gifts than they should be willing to show their gratitude in a traditional way as well. [/quote]

The couple spends all this time planning the wedding and then invites you to join them [b]and pays for your participation by providing you food and beverages and entertainment[/b]. For that you give them a gift. Then you want a card. Why don’t you see your gift as the thank you for being invited to the wedding and eating and drinking and dancing for free?[/quote]

What? PP has it wrong or has not been gifting enough. I was raised that a wedding gift should more than cover the per person cost of each person invited and attending a wedding. So if the dinner is $135 per person my husband and I should [i]at least[/i] gift $300 although we always gift significantly more than that.

Nothing is for free PP and if you are not gifting the bride and groom enough to cover your plate(s) shame on you.[/quote]

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