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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry OP, you didn’t win.  Tens of thousands of parents do this every year.  The real winners are the parents who watched self motivated kids accomplish this all on their own.  [/quote]

The most successful people are the ones who can leverage a free or low-cost education (regardless of the school’s rank) to propel themselves into a job/career/life that makes them happy.

As a parent, my primary hope is that my kids will find a loving partner who will be loyal and make them happy for the rest of their lives.

Jobs/careers shouldn’t be the primary focus of one’s life unless it’s a noble calling that essentially forms the bulk of one’s identity.

My kids are happy. They don’t require therapy or daily meds. They have very active social lives and dating/relationships. They are kind. They couldn’t care less about labels or school rankings. And they would never pass judgment on their relatives for anything…let alone high school credentials and college degrees.

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Don’t require therapy or daily meds?

What are you saying?
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I’m saying my kids don’t have mental health issues in contrast to so many posters who seem to ride their kids really hard so they make into a top school—despite the fact their kids have rather serious issues with anxiety or depression (or perhaps it’s a chicken or egg scenario…).

I went to school with a girl who literally busted out pills at school anytime she got stressed…which was a lot. She never dated. Never had fun. She worked her butt off because her parents pushed her. She graduated from an ivy. Single and childless today, struggling with issues. And she hates her parents for prioritizing the wrong things.

Aim to raise happy and healthy kids and everything else will fall into place. [/quote]

Oh, so mental health issues are the result of bad parenting? If your child had been born with ADHD, you would have just parented them right out of that?

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FTR I was referencing anxiety and depression specifically, wondering aloud whether it’s good parenting to push such kids super hard…given their diagnosis…particularly having watched so many kids move back home/transfer after struggling freshman year at pressure cooker schools.

It’s really hard for kids who have always succeeded to struggle for B’s or worse…especially when their parents have conditioned them to measure success by grades. [/quote]

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