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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, your husband was sounding like my STBX. After your latest post about his temper, being closed-off about sex, watching videos and just overall solitary personality...the two guys sound identical.

I'm going to warn you right now to be prepared for incredible aggression and even physical violence when he understands you're serious about leaving.

Take this very seriously.

He's not going to change or try to hear you. He's going to let you know you're not leaving without blood metaphorically and even physically being drawn. You're going to watch that apathetic, dismissive man channel a level of rage you had no idea was there. Be ready to record him and get a protective order.

I still don't know what is wrong with my ex, but there is something extremely wrong on the personal and mental level. Just get out. [/quote]

OP here. This summer I discovered a bunch of degrading content about women, including some violent ones.

I was so disgusted and disappointed and angry. I confronted him about it and it was all brushed off.

I have tried to bury that but now that I thought of it again, it just makes me want to be done.

I'm so sorry for your terrible experience. I hope you're in a better situation now.[/quote] your husband sounds eerily like my ex. Things got really bad when I left. Just be ready. Mine became super cold and hostile, just pure hatred directed at me.[/quote]
I'm the PP who posted upthread that OP's husband sounds just like mine. I see there are three of us here. I bet there are many more reading along who just don't feel like posting. Men like this is not rare. Narcissistic men with sociopathic personalities abound. The steps they follow are identical. They trap a woman through various devices. They give her the slow boil treatment by ramping up their awful behavior over the years, starting with neglect, gaslighting, and stonewalling. They become outright demonic when she tries to leave. I'm glad you got away.[/quote]

OP here. Wow, this is so disturbing. I had no idea there was a playbook for this garbage..

And you're right, it has definitely been the frog in the pot situation, not a 180 the day after the wedding.

He absolutely is a fan of gaslighting. He frequently tells me that I never said things or that he didn't hear me say things either in entirety or partial.

He still tries to show physical affection like hugging and scratching my back in the moment, but I've always pulled away or resisted. He doesn't like that, but it's just my instincts, I guess.

It is very hard for me to be attracted to or want to be physically intimate with a man who, according to him, doesn't even know me or help with parenting his own children.

Weird right?[/quote]

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