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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For the one (probably greedy boomer) who says just double up it’s easy, it’s clear you aren’t the host. Thanksgiving for a crowd of poorly behaved animals is already a ton of work. Cooking an extra turkey, doubling or really tripling the potatoes, stuffing, gravy, cranberry, pies etc etc so the “guests” aka invaders can be fed leftovers the next day and take back heaping portions is a ton more work.

I honestly think it’s an aspect of boomers who are inherently selfish and greedy losing their filters and making sure they get theirs and no one else does. [/quote]

I am 40 and I am team “just provide more food.”  I think it is the martyr generation who thinks of hosting as such a burden. If you already don’t want people “invading” your house and you are already fed up, then everything will seem like a problem and imposition.

There is no need to buy two turkeys and no need to double everything. But there are many ways to give the ILs a doggie bag pretty easily. [/quote]

You seem to have a listening problem. If you have overnight guests and plan to offer/left overs the next day then unless you double your amounts there is nothing left for greedy FIL/MIL who already snatched up containers full of food. You would be stuck explaining to rude guests that no they can’t have any leftover because the greedy boomers grabbed them already. You are stuck making more meals for rude people. The alternative is to double but that is a lot of work. [/quote]

Crazy grandma up above doesn't listen to anyone so she refuses to acknowledge how much work op has put in to the meal and also refuses to acknowledge that op has to feed guests the next day. She and the other old crones just want to crow about how easy they would find it when clearly they haven't hosted themselves. Also the larger the batch of food you are making, the harder it is to maintain how well it is made. Anyone who cooks often knows this.[/quote]

Good cooks also know how to choose recipes they can scale. Again, when there’s a will, there’s a way. OP is hell bent on serving thanksgiving dinner two nights in a row (yuck, no thanks) because she is rigid. There are tons of solutions that would be readily apparent to a more flexible person. But OP is not interested in solving her problems.[/quote]

You're the one who is super rigid.  Everyone except MIL is fine with OP's plan.  You're hell bent on making sure that MIL can steal OP's food rather than accepting that everyone else is perfectly happy grazing on leftovers shared freely.  OP already has a perfect solution, and it's that MIL doesn't claim food to take home when she's still actively being a guest in OP's house.  Why are you incapable of seeing that hoarding leftovers for your exclusive use when you're a guest in someone else's house is horribly rude?[/quote]

I assume and hope this is OP posting because it would be extra unhinged for someone else to be this invested[/quote]

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