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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a Catholic family, and if I were attending the funeral of my sibling's little child, I would just take communion even though I don't believe.

I would consider it my duty to do WHATEVER I could to minimize stress to everybody in the family.  I would think taking communion and keeping my mouth shut about it were the LEAST I could do.  I can't imagine being so self-absorbed as to make a thread about myself and whether I should take communion at my tiny niece's funeral.

If they wanted you to stand in a circle and worship the moon goddess, that would be your compassionate responsibility to do it, OP.  These parents lost their four year old!

If there is a god, I think he would also want you to just shut up and take the communion, if there was even a modicum of a chance that not doing so would cause stress to anyone else present, or divert an iota of thought/attention away from the memory of this poor little girl.[/quote]

NP. Thank you. That was my reaction to this thread. A loving God of any faith--and plain old common decency--would want OP to prioritize how she could minimize stress on the family. Not to prioritize herself and her not-quite-yet conversion (if OP is for real, which seems up for debate). And for those of you saying, "but confession," I'm not Catholic, but I truly, genuinely doubt the Catholic God is so rigid and rule-bound that he'd prefer she follow the rules and, in the process, offend a family who lost their four-year-old. C'mon, people.[/quote]

The Catholic God is pretty rigid and rule-bound!  You'd be surprised.[/quote]

Again. Even the Catholic God would prioritize stopping OP from staging a big, main character sideshow at a child's funeral. [/quote]

Since when is not taking communion a sideshow? the person staging the sideshow would be the one who got mad because OP didn’t take communion.[/quote]

Read the thread: "not taking communion" can take different forms. When "not taking communion" = going up to the altar and crossing your arms so everyone can see you don't believe, that's the definition of a sideshow. If you didn't want a sideshow, you would have "not taken communion" by remaining in your pew, which apparently Catholics do all the time. [/quote]

This is absurd. Receiving a blessing from the priest is not a sideshow in any way; the whole point is that the priest makes motions that are substantively quite similar to those he makes when giving Communion. Also, the person receiving the blessing has their arms in a position where unless you are to their front you have no idea that their hands are not in Communion-receipt position (instead, they are crossed near the neck), and as a result of all of this, the line continues at its prior speed, thereby drawing attention from no one who is not looking directly at the mouths of potential communicants for the purpose of keeping track and/or picking a fight. It is an anti-sideshow and potentially lower-drama than staying in the pew.

OP, I am terrible sorry for your and your family’s loss and for the way all of the trauma of the people in this thread is showing up. You did the right thing; hopefully your mom can let it go.[/quote]

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