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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, blaming middle school girls for harming their community based on their clothing is really something else. As a SSSAS parent, I’m horrified.[/quote]
DP, but I assume it’s a general detention requirement that you write a letter addressing your infraction, which is fine for many behaviors that result in detention, but when applied to dress code violations becomes ridiculous, and should definitely be rethought. [/quote]

Ideally it would have been rethought well before they did this to many girls.

I have given up on the school. The lack of leadership on this issue is astonishing. I happen to know parents who did recently bring this issue to Kirsten Adams and she said she didn’t care and she didn’t think any of the things discussed here were a problem, or were harmful to girls. C’est la vie. We are making a change asap. [/quote]

Yikes, that’s a disappointing response. You’d think the school would at least care about some of the reputational damage if not concern for students themselves.[/quote]

Maybe she cares about the issue but doesn’t want to hear another parent complain when their child broke dress code and got called out for it.  Not to be a totally jerk but it is NOT appropriate to show skin on the torso at work almost anywhere other than a nightclub or a pool.  No skin at all.  Not when you reach up and not when you reach down.  So… the school is teaching the kids how the world actually works.  They actually had to ban pajamas.  So did other schools.  Why?  Because quite unbelievably wearing pajamas and slippers to school became totally acceptable.  So maybe Adams cares about the long view.  Maybe she wants SSSAS kids to show up at competitions and interviews in clothes that don’t distract from the amazing abilities and skills the kids actually have.  Stop the breathless panic over this. It’s a positive.  [/quote]

She isn’t particularly passionate about the issue. She also doesn’t micromanage the LS, MS and US HOSs, so if it’s super important to Mike or Bee, then she’s going to let them and their deans administer this policy. That’s how she operates. And she’s going to stand behind her HOSs whenever there is conflict with a parent. She will always side with them. So it doesn’t matter if plenty of parents complain.

Kids were wearing pajamas because they were allowed to during Covid. It was a carryover. But if you have kids there, you would know that. [/quote]

We are new but the whole pajamas in public wasn’t just at SSSAS.  Every school and everywhere kids were wearing PJs.  However it started, it got out of hand and schools everywhere had to stop it.  Same with short shorts.  The aptly named Lululemon Hotty Hot  low rise with 2.5 inch inseam were small but then the flutter shorts came along and everything was just out there.  Then the midriff tops.  As a mom of teen girls, I know what the trends are.  But I also work full time and that stuff isn’t ok in any job.  Yet it was starting  to show up with our interns.  And yes, as we looked at hiring decisions, we consider what people wear (and don’t wear) and weigh whether we want to have the awkward conversation with a grown adult about their clothing.  We don’t.  These kids need to learn to dress appropriately for the situation.  Short skirts and skimpy tops aren’t appropriate for school or work or a funeral.  And you can disagree but you don’t get to pick SSSAS and then tell it to change its ways. All schools are tightening up on clothes because it got out of hand.  [/quote]

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