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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t sense the money for either side is the issue. 
It’s the secrets and back channeling that obviously happened and continue to happen. 
That also can lead to more cuts in the will, so “Early ButtKisser Gets the Worm.” [/quote]

From OP’s original post:
[i]“In one case she and my brother are now set to inherit 100% of everything. In the other case, she will get a hefty 6 figure “admin fee” and the rest will be donated.“[/i]

If it’s not about the money, then what are you implying about “buttkissing” and “worms”?
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If it’s not about the money, how or why did SIL & Aunt change one will to exclude the only other niece?

If the brother and SIL are so caring and altruistic then they could have done everything above board: [b]hey family update, we’re the executors and whatever’s left gets split 50/50 to heirs per the usual probate law[/b]. [/quote]

This doesn't make any sense.  For the will that names SIL executor, the money goes to charity.  But you think that unless the executor breaks the law and distributes the money as though the estate is intestate, she's a scammer?

There's no evidence that the will that gives the money to brother and SIL was changed "to exclude" OP, either.  We have no way of knowing whether OP was ever considered or named as an heir by that aunt.  [b]I have 9 aunts and don't think I'm a named heir in any of their wills,[/b] that's not particularly common. [/quote]

Start working it PP, early bird gets the worm! You snooze, you lose! Finders keepers!

End of life concerned emails, thank you letters, instagram pics from gatherings, birthday cards. That’s all it takes, get going! [/quote]

I guess this is just a different way of looking at the world.  For some people in this thread it seems completely unfair that relationships could come into play when a will is drafted.  But if I found out that one of my siblings or cousins kept in close touch with one of the many aunts that I only think about/see at family gatherings (like OP does), I wouldn't find it weird or sketchy that that aunt remembered them in her will.  I guess I would think it's nice that the money is staying in the family, and hope it helps that sibling/cousin process their (probably deeper) grief at her passing.

I would feel differently if it was a parent, or if I thought the recipient tricked the aunt.  But that's not the case here, except for the posters who are assuming that any relationship with an elderly person must be a trick, even one that's been going on for 5+ years.[/quote]

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