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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do agree with some of the conclusions here. I have both boys and girls, so you won't catch me bashing either.

My daughter would love to be "asked out" in the old-fashioned way. Dinner, coffee, whatever. She's sick of "talking to" guys.

My son is definitely a bit afraid to ask out a girl and either be shot down or shamed. He has friends who are gay and bisexual, but he admits to being confused about whether it's OK to pursue a girl who has said she's bi. [/quote]

I don’t really understand sort of extreme reactions like this.

My two sons attended DCPS and while they shrugged at some of the social engineering, neither felt oppressed or overwhelmed by the messaging.  Maybe in the scheme of things DCPS isn’t that crazy.

Neither has ever had an issue reading social cues and asking women out…sometimes a rejection happens but I guess they ask out normal people because there is no public shaming.

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I don't think he'd get shamed, either, but HE thinks he would! 
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I totally agree.

The guys (thanks to social media in my opinion) think they are going to be mocked and shamed if they make a misstep.

Social media has destroyed dating relationships.[/quote]

My sons aren't big social media users and no surprise the girls they are interested in, are not either.

It's kind of bizarre to think that a normal person will somehow now out of the blue try to get their viral moment by posting about how they rejected someone asking them out.

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It is the fear of being labeled as a creep but it is also bigger vs that. These viral moments reinforces the social construct- females are not interested in males approaching them, asking them out, interacting with them, etc. If you do approach a female you run the risk of being seen as a creep and no one is going to take your side. Most normal people will avoid this risk.

It is sad that people feel it is acceptable to shame awkward teens but it does have an impact. [/quote]

Exactly this.[/quote]

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