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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It can also be a form of narcissistic behavior, not allowing a kid any breathing room and basically taking over and becoming central to their activities -- eg, they  (your kid and the whole group) can't do it without you. Smother mothers and competitive mothers (moms who view their child as their competitor) love to do this. They live and walk among us. Not all, but they are definitely out there. I can spot the difference because I had a covert narc for a mother.[/quote]

THANK YOU!!!!!!! Finally, someone here who can see the truth. My area has a lot of this, not just at the school, but outside of school activities as well. What impacts do you think this has on the kid later in life?[/quote]

The person you quoted said it [i]can[/i] be a form of narcissistic behavior and it's [i]not all[/i]. My mother had a higher than average number of narcissistic traits (not full-blown NPD, but she has a really hard time separating other people's wants and emotions from what she would want and from her emotions), and the times she volunteered had nothing to do with those traits at all. Or if it did, it was merely that she only picked the things to volunteer for - or for us to be involved in at all - that were interesting to her rather than paying attention to our individuality. I don't blame her, she had her own childhood traumas that made it so.

But nor do I go around expecting every single volunteer coach my kids have to be a narcissist. Nor do I think the PTA and PTO presidents who lovingly serve my kids' schools, often behind the scenes in very unglamorous ways, are narcissists or even get much for their kids from it.

So saying this is [i]the[/i] single sole truth probably says more about you than it does about the moms you're referring to.[/quote]

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