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[quote=Anonymous]Just to parse out a few of the issues, since they seem to be getting conflated:

- HD and LD partners being married is tough for both parties.

- LD partners will sometimes offer reasons why they are behaving in LD ways. They feel that they might be less LD if their Higher D partners changed in certain ways. (Question: How much less LD would those who are propounding this view be, were the spouse to do the things suggested here - more responsibility in the house, more money, more alpha, more laundry, more exercise, more money? This is a serious, not sarcastic, question.)

- LD partners wish their Higher D partners were more understanding about the reasons why their D is so L. They wish that their partners didn't emphasize sex so much.

- HD partners feel rejected and frustrated. HD partners sometimes feel manipulated and lied to.

- HDs feel that sex is an important part of marriage/life.

- LDs feel that sex is more optional.

- LDs feel very angry that their HD spouses still want H amounts of sex, when the LD spouse feels as if the HD spouse hasn't "earned" that sex.

It seems helpful to acknowledge which particular part of this issue is being addressed.

Issue to be resolved: How can HD and LD partners be happily married to each other? What is required? Has anyone worked that out? 
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