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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the real issue has much less to do with whether OP should accept or decline the job and is much more about how they navigate difficult decisions as a couple.

OP, I recommend getting a few sessions with a marriage/ relationship counselor who can help you flesh out this ‘how to work together when facing tough decisions’ situation.

He may be 100% ready to marry you and he may be the right person for you, but if you are just scared to be single vs feeling he really is the right person for you long-term and he is demonstrating no willingness to engage in a real conversation, then these are big red flags.

The best case scenario is that you two *do* want to be together and that you have an honest and supportive conversation about options. [b]And if you decide not to take the job, it’s because it’s what is best for how *you* feel about the relationship and not because you were given an ultimatum.[/b] [/quote]
Yes! If she decides not to take this based on his childish attitude, she might resent him for it. And especially if he doesn't follow through with all this picture painting and promises, she will have lost out on a great boost to her career for... nothing.

If he only wants to be with you because it's easy, what happens when it gets hard? Sh*t happens OP. Things go wrong, circumstances change. Is he going to give you an ultimatum to do whatever and only what HE wants for the rest of your lives? How is this kind of attitude supposed to work in a marriage? [/quote]

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