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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP And [b]what if she had tried to discuss these boundaries with her spouse and he still decided to proceed? [/b]This is a serious issue, what is the right approach? I know a couple where they had such a discussion, he was not comfortable in that case and she still went ahead and brought home guns hiding them from her spouse for a while until he found out. But he could not do anything at that point, like the earlier poster said "better to ask for forgiveness rather than permission". [/quote]

I'm sure she would've put that in her rant, if it had happened, which it didn't. OP had big feelings she didn't take responsibility for communicating, and now she's trying to blame her spouse for not mindreading and doing what she wanted automagically. It's immature, at best.

And there's a big difference between "knows spouse is against it, does it anyway, and hides it" and "does thing as an adult without getting another adult's unnecessary permission first". Miles of difference. Light years, even. [/quote]
Absolutely not. How dare you victim blame the op for this. You don’t have to be a mind reader to think maybe you should discuss this major purchase of a dangerous weapon with your spouse. You are placing all the blame on the person who was surprised with a gun in her face when she got home, but none on the man who made an impulsive decision without consulting anyone.[/quote]

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