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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a boy and a girl and I think there is enough worry to go around.

Toxic masculinity is alive and well.  The lane boys are supposed to fit into or they will get made fun of and socially rejected is much narrower than girls.  [b]Early elementary education is set up for them to feel like failures.  There is also a level of hostility toward them (see it on this thread) that they know is there.  [/b]White boys in particular are simultaneously on the top of the pecking order in every way societally still, but also told they completely suck much of the time in popular culture.  No one feels bad for them and no one should, but when you're raising one you notice and they notice too.

Girls, does anyone need to even debate this?  Being a woman in this world is rough.  I have thought about this a lot and girls so clearly have their shit together more than boys, on average.  And then puberty.  Testosterone, brute strength of one sex over the other, and women having babies.  No turning back and it's never a fair fight and never will be. And they can be awful to each other in a way that will take your breath away.[/quote]

I want to agree with the bolded so, so much.  Even my son who is very bright and likes to learn really struggled with elementary school.  The expectation that every 6 year old boy is going want to spend a lot of time sitting at his desk coloring and doing crafts every day is ridiculous.  This targets a specific group of kids, mostly girls. It would be like teaching math and history through daily Nerf gun battles and giving poor grades to kids who don’t like Nerf and got sick of it.  DS literally silently cried when he got his school supply list going into fifth grade and saw crayons and glue sticks were still on it.

He is in high school now and doing very well.

I don’t know what’s going on, OP, but hang in there.  There are ups and downs for everyone.

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My son just turned 6 and is in K in private and hates drawing. He is also very bad at it especially when compared to the girls. I have 2 older girls and the story is always the same. Girls love to sit and color and are mostly well behaved. Boys like to build stuff, wrestle and push buttons.

My son is my third and I am much more worried about him than about my girls. The girls are built for school. They are smart, but they are also tough and confident in their abilities. 
My son keeps saying how he is not good at cutting or drawing and that his drawings are always bad when they are displayed in the hallway. I wish the teachers would display his Lego creations or his building with boxes. Even his writing is great compared to most of the other kids, but his drawings… yeah they are bad and my son feels really insecure because of them and how much emphasis is put on them.[/quote]

Agree[/quote]

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