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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, judging SAHMs is a favorite pastime for unsatisfied or smug WOHMs, just like it was the other way around for SAHMs to judge WOHMs. Grass looks greener or dead on the other side even though it's not that much different on either side, just different shades.[/quote]
Plenty of people don't judge either side, like making obviously resentful quips of [b]"I'd hate that lifestyle". [/b]
They just see the negative, sympathize and don't need to compare how their choices would not leave them open to such tragedy. Because, they know their own life has drawbacks to some degrees. 
I won't give the details but I had a wohm friend confess some outrageous stuff to me that would send anyone's tongue wagging and tsk tsking. I don't think any less of her because it was understandable in her case and something I could imagine my own mom saying (and I know my mom was pretty great). I don't rush to post the tragic tales of this one lady as a common thing, to gloat, that's so silly. I have my own multiple failings, everyone does. Life has many dimensions and we don't always show them so people take the small sliver they see to paint a broad picture, usually to suit their pov.[/quote]

Saying you'd hate something isn't being resentful. I hate butternut squash soup. I don't like the texture, the taste, the color. Doesn't make it a bad soup, it just makes it one I don't like.

Saying someone would hate the lifestyle of someone who does X (which, by the way, is present on both sides) means it wouldn't work for them. Most people would hate my job. I don't care. I love it. [/quote]

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