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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It was inevitable this post would bring out all the whiny “I have trauma and boundaries” people. This post is not for you. We are not telling you to invite your abusive relative to Christmas. Stop making every damn post about you! Scroll along. [/quote]

What you don't realize is that most people have difficult family members. It may not amount to a clinical definition of PTSD, but there is no reason to subject yourself to a grandparent's racist rants every holiday, or a mother's harping on every female relative's weight, including the young girls. It's not that you don't have some affection for these people, who despite their moral failings like you and have no doubt supported you in your life. But it doesn't follow that you would see them at a time when you most seek peace and quiet.

It's OK for everyone to choose how and when and where they interact with their relatives. I entirely agree with you that blood is thicker than water. I will contribute to eldercare, help out when someone is sick, send gifts to kids and spend precious summer vacation time with some of my relatives.

Christmas? No. I will enjoy my spiritual break in PEACE.

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Case in point, Whiny Boundaries poster. [/quote]

Sometimes actions have consequences and if you're being a nasty person every time maybe people don't enjoy being around you and want to enjoy their holidays without including you Lashing out at everyone is a sign you are externalizing your anger. Maybe you should take some time and think about how you can work on being a kinder person that people enjoy being around instead of feeling obligated to do so because you're their family. [/quote]

People lucky enough to have respectful and loving and kind parents and parents in law don’t need a PSA to see them on Christmas. We’re looking forward to it.

The people who don’t invite their in laws and parents aren’t inviting them for a good reason. [/quote]

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