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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No thanks.

You’re really fixed on the adults and making sure the oldest are coddled.

I remember what it was like to be a kid getting shuttled all over on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, visiting older relatives who were awful to my sister and I, and took my mother completely for granted. Overstimulated, rushed,  never allowed to have a quiet moment or enjoy the gifts or the food or the music. The years where one or both of us got sick on Christmas and the family stayed home together are my best childhood Christmas memories.

Now Christmas is a day for family. Meaning my nuclear family. Obligatory visits to older relatives take place on the 26th and the morning of the 24th. It’s just a few hours? They can get that few hours another time.[/quote]

This is a thread about inviting parents over, not “shuttling all over” to older relatives.[/quote]

This is a thread about being obligated to prioritize parents and in laws over the Christmas you want.

Nope.

If parents and in laws want to be invited they can be the kind of guests that adds to the joy of the day. Critics, lazybones and the self absorbed can get their duty visits another day, and this generation of kids will have memories of relaxed and joyful families.

“Decency” applies to everyone, not just the parents of adult children. Decency to ones self means not pandering—
Or making your spouse and children pander to— to difficult people on their one Christmas a year.[/quote]

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