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I don't know if you read that DH actually called dc right after he told me.... DC texted me. So he let the cat out of the bag immediately. Just couldn't contain it or stop to think about trying to present this information as gently as possible. I was left out of the decision. Which is infuriating but it is what it is and I just can't start flipping the fork out over every stupid and selfish thing this guy does. DH is really spoiling for a blowup with me and I feel like he just used our kid as a pawn in his emotional war. But I'm not here to fight. I'm here to get out of this mess without losing my mind and supporting our kid. I told him "I'm sorry Dad told you so quickly and without having a conversation with me about how to tell you. I would have preferred to be a part of the conversation." I asked if dh had happened to mention the actual reason he's leaving and dc said no...so I said "well he has a girlfriend and that's an important part of the story." and I left it there. I didn't call dh any names or say anything disparaging about him.[/quote]

You were far too kind to say "dad has a girlfriend".  No, the accurate statement is " Dad is committing adultery and has a mistress and breaking his marriage vows." 
Most of my friends are explaining it to their kids as "Mr. X chose to be a bad husband and bad father"  And even their kids are smart enough to be asking, "Is Mr. X having an affair?"  Yep.   Like a nuclear bomb, the whole affair is having destructive ripple effects to all our friends and family[/quote]

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