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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a reason for why one spouse chose not to work or works from home/at a flexible part time job? Or is this an acceptable turn of phrase? [/quote]

It's an absolutely valid statement. Many of my friends didn't want their children to be raised by strangers, some had the privilege to do it themselves or get family to support while others had to send them to daycare or leave them with nannies.[/quote]

It might be shocking to the SAHP crew,  but have you ever considered it’s actually developmentally superior for a few hours of the day for the child not to be attached to the parent at the hip?[/quote]

SAH doesn't mean the kid is attached at the hip, just like going to child care doesn't mean neglect.[/quote]

I agree, which is why I don't think SAHP spend that much 1-1 time with kids, definitely not more than working parents.[/quote]

I'mthe pp you quoted.  I've done both, and disagree.  I definitely spent more time with ds as a SAHP.  Just the every day stuff like having lunch together, even running errands.  We were still together and interacting.  Those things couldn't happen when I was working.  Although there was my SIL.  A SAHP who had little to do with her kids.  At 3 & 4, they generally got up on their own.  Dry cereal and a sippy cup of milk was breakfast while they watched TV and SIL slept.  The whole day was them entertaining themselves.   [/quote]

Not really … your kids went to preschool right?

You weren't interacting 7 hours a day.[/quote]

I’m not the pp but I absolutely interacted with my child 7 hours per day. I have 3 kids. My older two went to daycare/extended care when I worked. I stopped working when I had my third child. You spend more time with your child when you don’t work. I’m not sure what you are arguing. Not every hour is quality time but you spend more time. You are embarrassing yourself.[/quote]

I spend 6 hours with my children and work so I'm not sure why you need to prove you spend more time with your kids to justify staying home. You stay home, own it, don't make up some crazy justification and my H spends just as much time so that is 12 hours of parental time with our kids.

How about your H how much time does he spend with the kids a day?

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