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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it, because it’s true, even if people don’t want to admit that’s what’s happening when children are in full-time daycare.  But in polite society we avoid saying things that might hurt someone’s feelings, regardless of whether it’s truthful or not.  [/quote]

But it’s not truthful. My kids went to daycare, and, sure, their daycare teachers, who were all wonderful, provided care during the workday. But my spouse and I made the decisions on how to parent, which included finding great caregivers.[/quote]

If your children go to daycare for 10-11 (7-6 or 7:30-5:30) hours a day for the first 4-5 years of life and sleep 10-12 hours a night then you are not spending 4-5 hours with them each day 70% of the week. How is this controversial? You are outsourcing a lot of parenting duties to other caregivers. Someone saying that they don’t want to do that is not wrong. And I’m saying this as a 
full time working parent. [/quote]

Does your math include weekends, holidays, and vacations? Why do naps at daycare count as daycare time but night sleeps don’t count for parents?

At least be consistent.[/quote]

Yeah, when my kids were little I did the math — with 10 federal holidays, 10 sick days, 4 weeks vacation plus weekends that’s already 144 days out of the year plus I spent about 4 waking hours with them on the standard work week 25% of waking hours for day), so that works out to over half their time was spent with me plus of course I was making all the decisions about what they ate, where they lived, what books and toys they had, who their caregivers were, what medical care their received, what outside activities they engaged in, what clothes they wore, etc., etc.  my oldest is in college now and I really don’t think she feels like she was raised by anyone but me and her father.  [/quote]

I did the math too

I woke at 6am for a feeding and was with them until 7am I was at work at 7:30, home by 4.
My H was with them from 7-9, work at 9:30, home 6pm
nanny arrive at 9
nap was 9-11
nanny 11-1
nap 1-3
nanny 3-4
home at 4
bedtime 9

nanny time 3 hours
My children are in college right now and they can't even remember their nannies which makes their nannies sad when they visit. 
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Your children napped for 4 hours per day for years on end? Come on, you know that's not true and they spent way more than 3 waking hours per day with the nanny.[/quote]

Would you like to know their schedule when they were 3-4? Pick any age.

My work schedule was 6-3:30 2x a week, 6-12:30 and 1:30-3 during nap.

Wake 8am
Dad got them ready for preschool
Preschool 9-1, nap 1:30-3
3 days a week I did pickup, 2 days my neighbor did … 
1-1:30 lunch
1:30 -3 nap
3-4 play with friend 
4pm pu
4-9 time with kids

3-4 kids play
4 kids go to their homes.
Home

Did u home school?

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