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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If my kid came home and there was no dinner, he’d make something for himself. Not a big deal. He wouldn’t expect that I would bring him food. He’s capable of making his own because I taught him starting around age 7-8. [/quote]

So you have been training him from the time he was 7 years old to know that he can’t rely on you.  I know you think this is a parenting flex, but I think it’s depressing.[/quote]

Teaching your child how to cook is not teaching them they can't rely on you. It is teaching them they can rely on themselves. PP did NOT say she left her 7 year old to fend for himself.[/quote]

She said her kid wouldn’t bat an eye if he came home and mom and dad had not put in the slightest effort (mental or physical) into what he was going to have for dinner that night.  Which means he’s used to being neglected. (And not providing your kids with meals is absolutely a form of neglect, stop kidding yourselves.)

Some of you act like you’re superior parents, but in reality you’re just lazy and don’t feel like taking care of your kids.  It’s way more fun to go out to a dinner and the kids can go eff themselves, the entitled little brats!

My parents cooked for me, and somehow I managed to become a functional adult who cooks for my kids.  They’re not lacking any sort of foundational life skills by not being expected to function like adults before they are actually adults.[/quote]

She didn't say he wouldn't bat an eye coming home to no dinner at age 7. 
Why are so many of you so adamantly appalled that a 17 year old might have to figure out one meal? Must be some un-explored deeper issues. What if one parent had to go out of town for work for a week and the other became sick during that week? Sick parent is supposed to get up and prepare three meals a day or phone in for delivery? How about the 17 year old pitch in and prepare some soup for sick parent and herself? Oh, right. She wouldn't know how to because she doesn't need foundational life skills to function like an adult before she's 18. Good news, OP:  once your daughter is 18, you're off the hook.[/quote]

Not sure people are appalled at a 17 year old figuring out a meal. I think it’s more that on this particular day, the 17 year old worked a double shift and was likely really tired yet her parents went out and refused to bring her food. It’s just kind of mean. [/quote]

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