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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Girlfriend shouldn’t be your babysitter, not appropriate. [/quote]

+1 your really need to find an afterschool or daycare with extended hours.  Also shuffling your daughter off to your mom a few times a month is not necessarily something she would have to agree too.  You are basically saying for the majority of your awake custody hours your daughter is with your mom or girlfriend.  And that’s because you don’t want to pay your ex wife more.  You obviously have a tight work schedule.  Negotiate with your ex to give her more custody with the caveat that she get a job, even part time.  Play the long game and if you get her working you can adjust child support especially once kid is in school.  Back off the solo grandma visits for now just have her come when you can all spend time together.  It diesnt look good and I’m surprised your lawyer hasn’t mentioned that.  Find a way to work this out.  Neither of you will like the judges take on it.

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This is nuts. Extended daycare would be okay, but letting the kid come home with girlfriend or grandma in the afternoon is not? Please explain your reasoning here.

He doesn’t have to “back off” solo grandma visits. He has every right to let the child have visits with grandma during his time and mom doesn’t have to agree. I can’t imagine a judge interfering with that.[/quote]

ex will say his job hours make him unavailable for childcare for 50/50 custody.  And ex is right.  He has an unpredictable schedule and sometimes works nights and weekends apparently.  He’s relying on his girlfriend (who could be transitory or not) and his mom to be the primary caregivers during his custody time.  Ex can make the case she is better suited to be stable home pretty easily.

But really they should both keep it out of court, because it’s a gamble and expensive and rarely in the best interest of kid.  Op should use his bargaining chip (she wants more time) to get her to get a job and if so he will agree to 60/40.  He’s fighting for something he can’t even handle and it’s going to be very transparent that it’s more about the money than his kids best interest.  [/quote]

OP here. My job hours do not make me unavailable for 50/50 unless you’re making the argument that any parent that works full time shouldn’t have 50/50 custody.

I work 35-38 hours a week on a regular set schedule, but can’t make it to preschool pickup by 5:30. I work on Saturday and Sunday but have two days off during the week where our child does not go to preschool. I am the primary caregiver during my custody time.

My goal is to maintain the parenting time that I’ve always had, not to minimize child support. I would like my ex to also work to support our child and not to be the only working parent but I can’t exactly control that.[/quote]

I am confused about your schedule.  Where is your child on Saturday and Sunday?

Also, why is it ok for you to keep your child out of school on the days you don’t work, but not for her mother to do the same? [/quote]

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