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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Girlfriend shouldn’t be your babysitter, not appropriate. [/quote]

+1 your really need to find an afterschool or daycare with extended hours.  Also shuffling your daughter off to your mom a few times a month is not necessarily something she would have to agree too.  You are basically saying for the majority of your awake custody hours your daughter is with your mom or girlfriend.  And that’s because you don’t want to pay your ex wife more.  You obviously have a tight work schedule.  Negotiate with your ex to give her more custody with the caveat that she get a job, even part time.  Play the long game and if you get her working you can adjust child support especially once kid is in school.  Back off the solo grandma visits for now just have her come when you can all spend time together.  It diesnt look good and I’m surprised your lawyer hasn’t mentioned that.  Find a way to work this out.  Neither of you will like the judges take on it.

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You seem to have the same attitude as the mother in this case where daycare/preschool/aftercare is fine even when mom is available (since mom seems to be available all the time as she is not working) but granny and g/f are not fine. Why is that? This makes it appear that it is about control, bitterness, and spite and not actually about wanting maximum amount of time with the child.

If mom isn't working and is available, why is the kid still in daycare at all, especially during her time? If she really wanted to claw some time back, wouldn't it make more sense for her to offer to pulled kid out of daycare and save them money?[/quote]

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