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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not especially relevant if kids “like” daycare. Obviously it’s much better if they do but it can still be an undesirable setup in terms of cortisol control, emotional regulation, exposure to aggression, etc. It can dictate how effective your own parenting is. Try doing oh crap or RIE when your child is in a center and you’ll be undercut all day long.

Daycares also allow so little risky play (understandably!) and food and naps are all based on convenience. An individual caregiver—dad, nanny, grandma—can allow a child much more independence and autonomy. That matters for everything from anxiety prevention to gut health.

Parents also mistakenly believe that all the enrichment found in daycares matters. It doesn’t—a toddler doesn’t need to be shuffled from art to cooking to French in siloed stations. [/quote]

You act like daycare is a behemoth

Good lord the extent that some women will go to to justify not working is insane. Work isn’t that bad you know [/quote]
As any SAHP of small children can tell you, office work is far easier than caretaking.  Women aren’t trying to avoid work. The SAH bashing on here is insane. I am convinced that 99% of women have such abominable levels of internalized misogyny that their heads would explode if they started to unpack it. [/quote]

It's not that hard.  My observation is that the people who claim it's so hard are incredibly self-absorbed at baseline, so the entire world not revolving around them and their TV shows, wine tastings, and nail appointments anymore is exhausting and frustrating.  It's also why this same group acts like making a goddam doctor's appointment is so draining. They also do a lot of extra shit like your 2 year olds birthday party  doesn't require embossed invitations  and a photoshoot.[/quote]
It depends on your personality. I found being at home much harder because I need lots of space and quiet and the constant interruptions of my thoughts and not being able to pee in peace or make my own schedule really got to me. I was fine if we could be out of the house on adventures but my children’s demands when we were at home were HARD. There was a lot of emotional disregulation at home on their parts and mine too. We all have ADHD and it was taxing AF. Conversely, I am amazing at my nonprofit job where I manage a team of 5. I do not feel stress compared to being at home and constantly feeling like I was doing a terrible job because there is no black and white good job, obvious and immediate results or happy clients. [/quote]

It;s not that hard.  Your issues are your own mismanaged  ADHD and MH, not the caring of kids.[/quote]

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